Ah it’s 5am and i’m really tired. I’ll answer the remaining questions when I wake up. Feel free to leave more DN things I should talk about in my askbox. I’ll get to them when I wake up
Being Feminine and Loving Arya
I recently read a post about Arya girls VS Sansa girls and how girls who identify with Arya (aka Arya girls), or likes Arya are self loathing and jealous of Sansa girls, so they demonize femininity as a response and I just… no.
And I want to state that this isn’t just about that one post. It’s about the asoiaf/GoT’s tumblr fandom in general and their attitudes toward the whole Arya/ Sansa thing. I guess it kind of means more to me because most tumblr users are women/girls and it’s pretty discouraging that even in a pro-women site there is so much vitriol, division, and desire to pit girls against one another. Male influence doesn’t even need to exist.
But regarding the actual post, Arya doesn’t hate Sansa or think she’s the enemy. At all. Where do people get these ideas from? Cause it’s certainly not the books.
The reason Arya has a strained relationship with her sister is because Sansa and her friends used to bully her. They called her Horseface, they neighed whenever she was around. One of the last conversations they had with each other was Sansa telling Arya that she was “stupid, hairy, and ugly” and that she should have been killed. Even then, Arya never thinks of Sansa as “the enemy”. That is just kids being jerks and has nothing to do with femininity.
Not only that, but Arya doesn’t think of people as less than or unworthy because of their femininity. In fact, she gets along quite well with them.
Sansa knew all about the sorts of people Arya liked to talk to: squires and grooms and serving girls, old men and naked children, rough-spoken freeriders of uncertain birth. Arya would make friends with anybody. Sansa, AGoT
Cat had made friends along the wharves; porters and mummers, ropemakers and sailmenders, taverners, brewers and bakers and beggars and whores. Cat of the Canals, AFFC
Now, why would Arya, who supposedly “hates/resents femininity” befriend serving girls and whores? They’re not exactly wearing chain mail and swinging swords. The answer is quite simple: Arya doesn’t care about that.
How to get Arya Stark to like you: Be nice to her and others.
How to get Arya Stark to not like you: Be mean to her and others.
On a more personal note:
Arya is my favorite character in ASOIAF. Hell, she’s one of my favorite characters in literature. But I am definitely a “Sansa girl”. I am very feminine. Up until my mid to late teen, almost everything I bought with my own money came in a shade of pink. I also love dolls, red and white roses, ballet, weddings, dresses, romance, etc. This series was recommended to me by a Sansa fan who kept telling me about how much hate she was receiving in comparison to her “universally adored” (haha) sister and I went into the books thinking that I will love Sansa the best. And while I do love Sansa a lot, as I kept on reading, Arya became my absolute fave. Not even a competition.
So the fact that Arya was a fan favorite made me really happy. Then I saw the Sansa haters. Despite her excellent character development, she was still getting shit on about how ‘whiny’ and ‘weak’ she was. So after reading all those, I was pretty livid. But when Sansa fans came to her rescue, they had this unfortunate habit of defending her by (either passive aggressively or regular aggressively) degrading Arya. And that, my friends, is not right.
Posts, articles, and metas about how Sansa had “real”,”true” strength that was way stronger than Arya’s. Posts, articles, and metas about how “harder” it is for feminine women than it is for masculine women (fun fact: male privilege doesn’t extend to women no matter how many pants they own or how short their hair is. Those who identify as women do not cease to be women because they don’t fit into gender stereotypes/binaries). How no matter what hardships Arya is going through (homelessness, starvation, working in, essentially, a concentration camp, being beaten, etc) Sansa “had it worse” and is doing it “backwards while wearing high heels.” That is bullshit. And I had to read all this tripe in the name of, get this: FEMINISM.
That just pisses me off.
Sansa is absolutely a strong character. I want her strength to be not only be acknowledged but also celebrated. But not at the expense of belittling Arya’s. Whether it’s packaged in armour or baby blue, floral printed chiffon, strength is strength. No one’s strength is above or below others. Saying that being a feminine girl is easier or harder, weaker or stronger, better or worse, than being a masculine girl is wrong. That is not feminism, that is self-congratulation.
The OP of the Arya girls vs Sansa girls post told “Arya girls” that “Sansa girls” are not co-conspiring with the patriarchal society to make those who don’t fit into binaries hate themselves.
In response, I want my fellow “Sansa girls” to know that “Arya girls” do not exist to make you feel inferior. They do not exist to make your feminine personality and interests seem weak or stupid. They do not exist to let all the boys know who the “cool” girls are. Believe it or not, “Arya girls” exists to be their own person. To have their own passion and interests that may not be compatible with yours. They exist to live their own lives and choose their own paths.
We should be lauding the fact that a character like Arya is so beloved by a general audience. An emotionally complex girl who doesn’t fit into a rigid gender mold and isn’t being told to “know her place” or how she’s “good, but not as good as the boys”, “ Strong, but not as strong as the boys”.
As “Sansa girls”, our goal should NOT be to take Arya and “Arya girls” down a peg (a goal that many seem to have as some reactionary hate towards well-liked characters) but to show others that Sansa and our feminine, Sansa-like strength is just as valid and important. The spotlight is big enough for the both of them.
Q:If you were the writer of Death Note and you had the chance to change one scene completely, which one would it be and why?
oh my god. one scene?….god i’m so torn….
I really don’t know. I think I’d have kept Naomi Misora alive because she died needlessly. I’d kind of have preferred it if Naomi kept the boat afloat after L’s death…..perhaps bringing Near and Mello into the mix later on…..but i would’ve changed her “death scene” basically
Q:Talk about Misa!
yay why not?
I’ve always been on the fence about whether I like Misa or not. I think in Team Kira though she’s definitely my favorite. However, she is not my favorite Kira.
I find Misa dangerous. And not in a good/cool way. I think she’s self-destructive ….I think “explosive” would be a better word because not only does she harm herself she harms everyone around her for the sake of an idealistic dream that she herself realizes to be untrue.
1. using her friend to get to Kira purely for the sake of thanking him which is by the end of the day a personal gain because it is obvious that by trying to contact Kira she’s putting herself, Kira and her poor used up friend in trouble,
The crookback lord looked again and gave a sudden snort. "Him? Can it be? Stark’s ward. Smiling, always smiling."
“He smiles less often now,” Lord Ramsay confessed.
Q:Talk about Mello's love for chocolate
I don’t like to consider Another Note as canon but a line in it might be a strong fanon opinion as to why he eats so much chocolate. While describing L in AN he says
The century’s greatest detective, advertised as solving every case imaginable. How great his burden must be, how much pain must he go through every single moment: past, present, and future… A burden so great it would leave you hunched over. A bitter taste in your mouth that would leave you longing for sweets.
….which could be the author’s way of showing why Mello himself was always eating chocolate.
Personally, like I mentioned I don’t consider Another Note canon, so I form headcanons that clearly contradict everything in AN, so I don’t believe his chocolates were all that sweet. In fact, I think he ate semi sweet dark chocolate purely because it kept him awake and he has a bit of left over oral fixation from when he smoked [yes i like to think he used to smoke] also dark chocolate is a lot less fattening.
All the Wammy’s kids he latches on to one thing. I think all the Wammy’s kids need something materialistic to latch on to, which they did at a young age as a comfort/coping mechanism. And like most coping mechanisms there’s not much to read into except that it makes them feel comfortable and less fidgety.
….which i just realized might be similar to what the quote in AN means except i don’t believe it’s the burden of detective work that caused any of them to develop these coping mechanisms.
i feel like writing metas and long opinionated blah blahs about Death Note but I’m not sure what to write so if anyone wants me to talk about something please send me a message or something. [i’m always open for discussions]
i think it’s a universal truth that everyone in our generation takes pluto’s losing its planetary status as a personal offense
pluto is smaller than russia. why did we ever even consider it a planet?
BECAUSE IT’S A PART OF OUR SOLAR SYSTEM
OHANA MEANS FAMILY
FAMILY MEANS NO ONE IS LEFT BEHIND